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23.5.18

Hungry, Hungry... Mom?

I love breast feeding. Honestly it gives me such a feeling of satisfaction to know that if my baby is hungry I have the power to be a source of food for him and provide him with the nutrients to help him grow. Between the health benefits and our special bond it’s amazing! However, there is one thing I don’t like. 



I AM ALWAYS HUNGRY! 



I know they say breast feeding is supposed to help you lose weight and it did at first. All the baby weight was literally just falling off. But now between the constant hunger, constant thirst and constantly fighting my previous pregnancy diet I feel like I have hit a stand still with the weight loss. 

A big thing for me now is finding the right snacks to have accessible during my feeds. Along with having the right tools with me, my snacks play a big role in keeping me comfortable . 




My monthly package from Goodie Box does just that. With multiple different food options to choose from this free box gives me just the right diversity to keep me full and satisfied during a feed. 

Not grabbing unhealthy snacks is probably my hardest challenge. These boxes are filled with healthy snacking options that are not only good for you and tasty, it's free too!



Keeping the weight down is a struggle but between working out and healthy snacking I’m determine to get this weight down. 

Mamas what are your favorite feeding time snacks/ drinks? Help a sista out because ya girl is struggling! 

See ya! 


Aysia B. 

21.5.18

Help! My Baby's Making me Lose my Mind

When you get pregnant you face many different changes to your body. Mentally, physically and emotionally; your body goes through a world wind of changes. Some you are ready for and some your not.

Pregnancy brain is one of the mental changes everyone talks about. Leaving things all over the house, forgetting to turn the car off, putting your milk in the cupboard, etc. For me, pregnancy brain was a piece of cake. But this mommy brain? Oh yea it’s giving me a run for my money. 


All those examples I listed above? That’s me within the last few months or so. I have gone to get my hair done and left the car running the entire time. I constantly lose things all over the house. And the milk? Thankfully I wanted another bowl of cereal right away or things would have gotten real smelly real fast. 

To be fair, to a lesser extent I was kind of all over the place before Tate got here.  I was always rushing (yupp I’m the person who’s going to be late to her own funeral), constantly forgetting things and if I wanted to remember to call someone the next day I had to use my calendar and schedule a reminder. But these things above are completely minor to the brain I have now. 

Since having Tate I swear there’s like a little switch in my brain that’s been shut off. My memory is ten times worse. I’m late due to my memory being ten times worse. When it’s time to get ready I feel like a chicken with my head cut off. And don’t ask me to call or email anyone tomorrow. I’m lucky if I remember to feed myself. 


The mommy brain is hitting me HARD and if I’m being completely honest I hate it. There is this constant feeling of rush, disorganization and being unprepared.  But if you know me, challenge is not something I back down from. 

So here’s my top 5 things I will be implementing in the next week to combat this mommy brain:

  1. Slow down. It was the tortoise who won the race; speed is not always the answer. Before I leave for my plans I want to take a second and live in the moment. My hopes is this slow moment will allow me to regain control before I leave and get rid of the feeling of anxiousness I have when heading to an event. 
  2. Early rising. In order to be able to get my extra second and slow down, I’m going to need more time. Okay yes, I know those of you who know me are laughing because the facts are: I’m not an early riser. Never have been, and thankfully Tate for the most part hasn’t wanted to start his days before 10 am either. But waking up early will allow me to feel more refreshed and prepared before having to leave the house. 
  3. Go to bed earlier. This ties into the bullet above. If I go to bed earlier I will wake up earlier. Sounds simple right? Wrong! When Tate sleeps at night is honestly the only scheduled time I have to do what I really want to do. Play sims and blog. I’m easily up another 3-4 hours after him on any given night. By cutting this back to maybe 1-2 hours I am hoping to be able to knock number 2 out of the park. 
  4. Planning. You guys already know how this whole planning thing works. But I don’t necessarily want to plan for things I cannot control. This time I’m keeping it simple. Plan my outfit, plan Tate’s outfit, plan my route to leave and possibly even plan breakfast. This extra step allows me to have a schedule and stick to it. As well as commit to things that usually take up the most time for me- outfits. 
  5. Leave it. This is honestly my biggest problem with being on time. I don’t know how to just leave stuff. I constantly over estimate how much time I have and how much time I will need to do things. Oh I have to leave in an hr? That’s a perfect time to clean all levels of my house and possibly throw in a load of laundry. *insert cutting eyes emojii here*. Honestly it’s annoying to myself as well. So if it doesn’t contribute to my current plans then I will be leaving it. 

Now I know these plans will not be easy. But neither is life with an infant. At some point it won’t just be my things that we have to attend but Tate’s things as well. So I want to attempt to start a schedule now so when it’s time to add more to the schedule we’re all locked and loaded. 

Check back with me on social media to find out how I’m keeping up with these tips. And hey maybe you’ll try them with me? Pretty sure there’s power in numbers. 

See ya! 
Aysia B. 


16.5.18

Finding the Sparkle; Using the Right Products for my Baby's Sensitive Skin


Growing up I always had sensitive skin.  I would get so jealous of all my friends that could use the fake body washes with the glittery particles in them.  I mean ya girl was tryna get sparkly too!  After one use of those products I quickly learned my delicate skin was not down with the sparkle.  Sticking to products like ivory green bar soap was enough.  As I got older I was able to venture more towards bath and body works and other products that smelled sweet.  Still no sparkle though.  It now seems, my son suffers from this same issue. 

Finding a product that works well for your baby is hard.  The thought of trial and error with their delicate skin is scary for any parent let alone a first time parent.  But that is exactly what your expected to do.  And when it came to Tate, the trial and error process felt never ending. 

As I talked about bath time before, everybody loves a clean smelling baby.  Before an initial bath can be given, baby's umbilical cord must fall off.  In our case it felt like it took FOREVER for Tate’s to drop.  But when it finally did I was so ready to submerge my baby in his bath tub.  

Most moms will tell you Aveeno was their baby's first bath soap.  I mean it is meant to be delicate on the skin and it smells amazing.  Originally, Tate’s skin loved Aveeno!  It kept him moisturized and smelling so amazing.  Then around the one month mark his skin started to break out right after bath time.  I decided it was time to switch products. 



After taking him to his doctor, it was discovered he had eczema.  So the products we used from then on out had to have extra moisturizing power as well as be specific to this condition.

Next up was Shea Moisture Raw Chamomile and Argon oil for baby.  This product smelled so amazing but the scent was a little strong for babies in my opinion.  Tate’s skin did not break out visibly, but I would use the lotion on him following the body wash and sometimes he would just scream and cry.  This lasted about 2 weeks and then I decided it was time for another change.  We then tried Cerave.  This product did not smell as strong , it actually smelt kind of bland. But a week later and his skin was not moisturized and had fine point bumps on it.  Eucerin was up next and this product didn’t even make the week cut.  Within one day his skin was completely covered in what looked like a rash and the product had to be washed off. 



Finally we tried Cetaphil.  I am so thankful for this product because it finally got us off the trial and error train.  Cetaphil both soothed little Tot’s skin and kept his dry patches moisturized throughout the day.  We have been using this product for over 2 months now and *fingers crossed* his eczema appears to be almost non existent.  

My best tips I would give for a baby with sensitive skin would be:
  • Be cautious with products that smell too strong, more than likely it will break baby out
  • Look at the ingredients on the back of the products.  Be cautious of ingredients that were in previous failed products as they will probably cause the same reaction.  I wish I did this first as it would have saved me a lot of time. 
  • Just because your baby’s skin does not visibly appear to be irritated does not mean it isn’t
  • Don’t be afraid to change products if you feel its not working for your babes no matter what the reviews say; you know your baby best.
  • Don’t give up! It may feel like theres a billion products out there and you’ll never find the right one but trust me, it will come. 


Skin care is such a major topic for newborns and infants.  To finally find the right product for your little one is such a rewarding feeling.  With fingers crossed and high hopes, let’s hope our current product keeps my little man as comfortable as can be and our search is officially over.  

What is your skin care journey look like for your little one?  Have you hit your rewarding moment?


See ya!
Aysia B.

12.5.18

BTG Feature Friday: Sharon Bly


Up until this year Mother’s Day was just another holiday, similar to Christmas.  You ask the person what they want and then you go and buy it.  But you know like they say, you never understand someones’ position until your in it.  Now that I am a mother myself I appreciate this special lady in my life in more ways than one.  I now understand exactly what it’s like to be in her shoes and I understand it is something I can never repay her for.  So what better person to #FeatureFriday for Mother's Day month than my own mama.  Here it goes!

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Aysia: Hey mom!  Thanks for being my special guest this mothers day!

Mom: No problem.  Happy to be here and featured.

Aysia:  I figured what better person to have for #FeatureFriday this month than my mama.  So Happy Mother’s Day mom.

Mom: Same to you.

Aysia: Thank you thank you.  Now I know there’s two of us, Brandon and I.  So what was your labor story with me?

Mom: Well the entire length of labor lasted almost 24 hours.  I started with minor labor cramps and told your dad to go to work because I wasn’t sure how long it would last.  After having your uncles come check on me multiple times he finally left work early. I guess he was afraid he would miss something.  Then hours passed you still hadn’t come, I was only 6cm dilated and your heart rate started dropping.  I had to have an emergency c-section. 

Aysia: That’s so ironic because they say your birth stories are sometimes hereditary.  And ours are similar in the sense, like you know, I had to had an unscheduled c-section.  Crazy. So you’re considered an expert mama of course, 20+ years, what is some expert advice you’d give new mamas?

Mom: Eventually it ends.  The hard parts; sleepless nights, tantrums, they all eventually end.  

Aysia: That is such good advice mom.  Especially those first few months. 

Mom: Exactly.  They always end and the beautiful times come back around.

Aysia: So being that it’s been some years what is one product now that you wish they had back when we were kids?

Mom: That dock-a-tot thing.  It’s like a little bed in a bed.  Back in the day we would just sleep with the baby in the bed.  That thing has like borders so you know you won't fall over on them.

Aysia: I LOVE my dock-a-tot.  Was definitely a most wanted item on my list. So now your a grandma or grammy as we say.  What’s the best part?

Mom: Not having the day to day worries.  You get all the joys of the baby without actually worrying if they’re eating enough or sleeping, etc. 

Aysia: Good, glad you didn't say that you get to give them back haha.  Let’s play a game.  Pick either me or Brandon. Who got teeth first?

Mom: Honestly, it’s been so long I don’t remember that one. But you both got them around the 6 month range. 

Aysia: Who walked first? Pretty sure I know this one haha.

Mom: Yes, you took your sweet time walking on your own.  So Brandon walked first.

Aysia: Talked first?

Mom: You did.

Aysia: Who got in trouble more?

Mom: I’d have to say you.  That mouth always got you in trouble.

Aysia: Yeaaa so happy I had a boy in that sense haha. Okay funniest thing we ever did as kids?

Mom: Not sure what’s the funniest thing you guys did, but I always remember that time we were at Disney world and Minnie Mouse was dressed in her safari outfit and you said she looked like a grandma.  Brandon was so afraid after that, it was so funny that the statement alone scared him.

Aysia: Yes! I remember that. Hilarious.  Well thanks for taking with me mom.  I appreciate all you’ve ever done for us. 

Mom: It’s my pleasure.  All apart of motherhood. 


4.5.18

Turning up the Heat; Ways to keep baby cool in warm weather

Tate is a winter baby. And in terms of summer, “he ain’t bout that life”. The other day we went jogging in 90 degree weather and his little cheeks were just as red as can be! So when planning for our trip to Arizona, I knew an adjustment to the heat was mandatory for this little Tot. 



Being as though Tate was a winter baby things like shade, sunscreen and light weight clothing were foreign to us. We’re all about that snowsuit, no sun, multiple layers type of weather. Don’t worry baby, mommy’s about that life too. But I was definitely not going all the way out to Arizona for my first time and sitting in the house to avoid the heat. So here were my top 5 baby tips to help little man adjust to the climate change. 

  1. Hat. In the cooler months I keep a hat on him to make sure he doesn’t lose any heat through his head. Well in the warmer months the hat is still in effect but shaped a little different and used for other reasons. In AZ I made sure his hat had a wide brim to keep the sun out his face. And was made from a lighter material so he didn’t overheat.
  2. Pool. Thankfully our friends we stayed with had a pool. On one of the hottest days, there was no other way to cool off then to just hop in the pool. And for his first time I’d have to say little man did just great. I’m seeing lots of swimming in his future.
  3. Lightweight clothing. Before leaving for our trip I had to of course go shopping. Not only for style reason, but also because Tate had no summer clothes that currently fit him. When picking my items I made sure the clothes were thin and I got plenty of short sleeved tops with shorts. 
  4. Cool cloth. Most of the time we were indoors so this was not as necessary. But in times when it did get super hot I wiped him down with a cool rag or cloth. Not only did it cool him down but he seemed to think it was a game to play. That’s always a bonus.
  5. Blankets. I’m that mom that constantly keeps her baby covered with a blanket. Don’t ask me why I just feel it’s something he needs and Tate loves his blankets. Pretty sure he’s going to be a “blanky kid”. In the warmer climates a blanket isn’t necessarily needed, but due to my obsession, the aden and anais blankets came right in handy. They’re light weight blankets that still get the job done. 

Even though I’m a winter baby I love all things warm weather. Ice cream, the beach, sun dresses, etc. Let’s hope the more I make him comfortable in it, Tate will feel the same. 

See ya! 
Aysia B. 

30.4.18

Of course I LOVE my baby... I think?

I’ve been in the middle of writing my mom travel series and I got some feedback from readers on my last post that made me want to put a pause on the travel series for a second.  

I’m not the first person to be a mom. Duh of course Aysia.  But there are times you go through things as a mother and between the hustle and bustle of life and baby you forget that other moms (and sometimes dads too), are going through or have gone through the same situations.  From my breastfeeding post, I got a lot of feedback from others moms that said “me too”.  

  • I didn’t get the aha moment at my son’s birth: “me too”
  • I didn't feel a rush of emotions when looking at him: “me too”
  • I didn't have an immediate connection and it made me feel like a bad mom: “me too”


When I wrote that post I was SURE I was going to get some negative feedback.  I was sure I would receive some rude, “why would she say she didn’t love her child”, comments.  But to my surprise I didn’t.  

See I loved my son.  I mean at least I knew I was supposed to love my son. He’s my flesh, he was growing inside of me and I was literally creating him. There’s an automatic kind of love that comes with that.  But I wasn’t sure if I LOVED my son.  

Throughout my pregnancy people touched my belly.  Asked to see my ultrasounds.  Asked questions from baby names, to gender, to birth plans- honestly, sometimes it felt like outsiders were more obsessed with my baby than me.  Don’t get me wrong I loved the doctor visits where we got to hear his heart beat.  The flutters in my belly made me feel like there were butterflies all throughout my body.  Rubbing my belly, dressing my belly; it all was fun.  I LOVED being pregnant.  But did I LOVE my baby? 

Throughout my pregnancy I constantly questioned myself; “shouldn’t I feel something like magic?”, “Isn’t there supposed to be more to this whole pregnancy thing?”.  I would cry to Briean asking “does it mean I’m going to be a bad mother because I don’t have this burning, all over, body tingling LOVE for him?”. And his answer was always the same, “It’ll come”.  And I convinced myself of the same thing.  The second that I laid eyes on that beautiful baby boy that had been brewing inside me, I was definitely going to feel that immediate love.  But I didn’t and for me, it didn't happen that way. 



The moment they placed the incision and opened me up one thing was for sure, my life was changed forever.  They took Tate out, got him all cleaned up and brought him over for me to see.  This was it! The moment I was waiting for, the one where the love would just hit me like a ton of bricks.  But there was no change; no surge of love, no increase in heart rate, I don’t even think I cried. 

They stitched me all up and rolled me into the recovery room.  I wanted to hold my baby. I wanted to be present and spend time with my family but I was so drugged that what I really wanted to do was sleep.  Once up on the labor and delivery floor I was definitely in awe with the baby.  I couldn’t believe my body had made something so amazing and pure.  But yet again I felt the question lingering, do I LOVE him?

About a month later we were back in Delaware visiting my parents and I remember a conversation me and my brother had. 

He asked: “So are you like obsessed with him?”.  

I responded: “I mean not really.  I just love cuddling him.  I like feeding him and just holding his hand while I do.  I like to kiss his cheeks a lot.  I stare at him when he's sleep and just can’t seem to look away. It’s just really cool”.  

His response: “That kind of sounds like obsession to me”.

And finally it hit me. He was right. 

I obsessively LOVED this baby. 

There was this little creature in front of me, so meek and innocent, and I was completely obsessed with him.  

There was no ONE MOMENT that caused this love.  No “magical look” that captured my heart.  And that's OKAY, because instead there were all these little moments that formed into one. 



Moms you love that baby.  Even when you think you don’t, when you question your bond or connection, or even when your staring at this new squishy thing they put in your arms thinking what do I do with it. Your love for that baby knows no bounds. So throughout his life forget trying to look for special little moments and just embrace all the funny, sweet and loving moments as one. 

Trust me, that’s LOVE. 

See ya!

Aysia B. 

24.4.18

Showing my son the World; what did/ didn't work for baby's first flight

When I was 11 years old my parents put me in an ambassador program that sent about 20 of us overseas. For 3 weeks we stayed at 5 star resorts, ate the best foods and experienced different monuments all over Europe. No parents, just mentors and chaperones. I know, sounds crazy to think of just sending your kid on something like that, but the world was (just a little) safer then.

On that trip I saw so many things. It was then I realized that the world was bigger than my backyard. It extended far greater than my street or my neighborhood or even bigger than my state! Of all the gifts my parents have given me the gift of travel has to be one of my top favorites. That gift, is something I can’t wait to give to my son. 


Now I know most people try not to take their baby on planes to early, but I could not WAIT for Tate to have his 2 month appointment and get the official clearance from his doctor to travel. We had been by car many times before and I was so ready to get him in the air. 

I didn’t always like the plane, actually I was quite terrified at first. But with the right tools I was able to get over my fear and make it a comfortable ride each time I flew. And for my baby’s first flight that’s exactly what I needed to make him comfortable; the right tools! So I did my research, asked around and some things I just wung it.  Here’s my list of things that DID/ DIDNT work (or I didn’t try) for Tot's first flight: 


DID work
GATE check stroller & car seat (makes carrying things in airport easier)
Feed during take off and landing (prevents ear popping)
Dress baby in layers (for airplane temperature changes)
Have change of clothes (in case your baby has an accident ON YOUR LAP) 
Movies (yes, my 3 month old likes tv sorry, not sorry)
Snack/ goodie bag for surrounding passengers





DIDNT work/try
Gripe water (in case baby gets gassy)
Benadryl (use your imagination)
Sounds app/ white noise (for sleep/ soothing)
Sit in aisle (easy access for walking/ bathroom)
Have extra formula for during the flight

One thing I would recommend that doesn’t really fit into a “did/ didn’t work”, is to have a good diaper bag with lots of space and sections. Our diaper bag wasn’t really the greatest in those areas so a lot of things ended up having to be juggled along with baby when actually boarding the plane. 

The best recommendation of all that I received, RELAX! Your baby is a baby. You can’t guess how they’re going to act in every situation and you also can’t control it. Above all your baby’s comfort matters most. So if nothing works and they happen to be little stinkers the whole time welp! All you can do is give extra cuddles and if your feeling nice apologize to your fellow passengers. 




Travel is something I definitely hold near and dear to my heart. Experiencing another culture outside of your own is something so eye opening and mind blowing. I know these are not things Tate can understand now, but someday he will. And I hope he enjoys it as much as I do. In the mean time, he’ll just have no choice but to be dragged along as we see the world. 

See ya! 
Aysia B.